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September 15, 2020Lockdown lifelines September - from the Marriage Counselling Service
In our marriages, criticism can be a wish you have in disguise. It's often a real need, expressed in a negative way. Try "I wish .... " (realistic expectation) instead of "you never .... " The never routine often makes our partners switch off as they feel threatened and they can't then hear the underlying message.
An example might be: "I wish we could spend some time at the end of each day just sharing how our day has been" as opposed to "you never spend time with me when you come home". As a couple you can then work out when would be the best time for both of you - remember compromise is a useful skill in any relationship!
For information or advice please email in confidence counselling@rcdop.org.uk
